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Beginning Again

Well, I made it through the second quarter and didn’t strangle any sales guys, so that counts as a big positive. Also, I have started July off on a good foot by doing chores with a good attitude and without grumbling (though no one but me would have heard). Finally, I’m up and going at normal time for a work day, even though my boss bid me to take today and tomorrow ahead of the holiday break easy and work from home, doing only essential tasks because I deserve a break. I will do so, but sticking to routine helps me avoid temptation to turn “work from home” into an unrecorded day off.

All of this and the train of thought that leads me to record it all form another start on my goals of positivity and personal growth. I’ve learned that progress in such things, for me, is actually a series of efforts rather than one long pull to the goal line. I’m not sure why that is. But I’m not unhappy about it. Growth still happens and it’s mostly conscious and intentional. That I seem to need to start out toward the same goal a lot doesn’t diminish the progress I make each time. And because I do start again, rather than give it up, is a meta-win. Not quitting is as important to me as starting in the first place.

So, I’m beginning again. Focusing on the good things, consciously avoiding negativity, and trying to bring substance into my writing. This quarter, when I take stock at the end, I want to have the ability to judge myself as having accomplished all of my primary goals and improved performance on the stretch goals I set for myself last week. But more importantly, I want to be able to say that I’ve stayed the course from this new beginning and head into the next beginning with momentum.

Have a great week, my friends, and may you have many successes on your own new beginnings.

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2nd Quarter Report Card

As you may recall, I have been working on a weekly posting goal all year, plus a commitment to positivity and some other personal growth goals. At the end of March, I posted my Q1 report card. As I said then, these goals and the effort to achieve them are for me, and this report card is an accountability device that helps keep me motivated. But because the objective is entirely personal, I try to be fair, yet generous, with myself when rating my performance. Last quarter I got all A’s and made the honor roll. I also set some stretch goals to keep me from resting on my laurels.

So let’s see how I did in Q2. I’ll be grading on three main topics (Weekly Posting, Creativity/Nurturing My Spirit, and Work-Life Balance) plus the stretch goals (More Substantive Blog Posts, Practice New Sand Casting Skill, and More IRL Socializing) on an A through F scale.

Q2 2018 Report Card:

Weekly Posting: A

Substantive Posts: D

I’ve kept the posting streak alive and I’m proud of that. But this quarter I had a lot of fluffy, list-y, place-holder posts. And there was the unintentional teasing of a weighty, substantive post about gender issues that mostly fizzled. While I did do a fairly substantive post on the general subject, it wasn’t the post I wanted to write. I know I can do better. So A on the main goal, but a nearly fail on the stretch goal.

Creativity/Nurturing My Spirit: A

Practice Sand Casting: F

This main goal, being a compound topic, is inherently squishy when it comes to ratings. My objective was as to encourage a bit of self-focus, self-care. That’s a struggle for me in a lot of ways, but it’s an important antidote to the stress I deal with in my job. So, the way I see it, anything that makes my heart lighter counts for this goal. And although I have not practiced sand casting even once this quarter, I did a lot to make my heart happy. The big one was getting to give an epic gift to my brother and sister in law. That was a month ago and we’re all still floating in the clouds with delight over it. Several other small gestures of kindness, both given and received, add to this tally. So I’m giving my self an A for Spirit Nurturing, but a big ol’ F for actual practice on sand casting.

Work/Life Balance: B

IRL Socializing: F

Being social is just hard. For me, anyway. I find crowds exhausting and small talk insipid. My small pool of friends are all very kind to accommodate these personality flaws and don’t demand a lot from me socially. But I really have to get better at this. I’m doing fairly well with keeping up with our monthly supper club outings and joining in when unscheduled gatherings happen. I’ve been to my family’s studio a few times to hang out, and even went out with a couple of friends this past weekend. But I’m not finding new friends and I’m not initiating the outings, usually. And my most frequent interactions with people other than family or work colleagues is still via text. So, a solid B on the main goal, but an F for the stretch goal of seeking out IRL social contact.

So, overall, I’d say I’m passing, but not honor roll this quarter. I’m going to keep the same goals and stretch goals for next quarter and see if I can’t get back on the Dean’s List. 😁

I hope your summer is full of fun and satisfying personal accomplishment. Be well, my friends.

Sartorial Positives

Today begins the penultimate work week of the second quarter, and the overbearing, unreasonable and unrealistic demands from the sales organization have already (at half past 7am) made this a long, exhausting week. So, I’m looking for fun, light, happy things to take my mind out of the negative space it’s threatening to slip into.

One thing that always makes me happy is looking sharp. I don’t always have the highest self image. But being clean, well groomed, and dressed in clothes that validate my identity always picks me up.

Last week I got new bow ties for the first time in ages. It’s so fun to get packages in the mail and even better when they feel like a surprise because they arrive more quickly than expected.

These are gonna be fun to wear! I’m wearing the fun socks today. Excited to sport the blue diamond tie tomorrow!

Bonus: They’re from the Jesse Tyler Ferguson Tie The Knot program at the Tie Bar. Affordable and a fun, easy way to contribute to the fight for equality.

I hope you all have a great week and find comfort and positivity in your wardrobes.

Let’s hear it for the list!

I’m determined to keep my posting streak alive. I’m also battling a bout of writers block and fatigue. So, I’ll rely on a list to keep it going. Here are some good little things I’ll share this week:

  1. Ocean’s 8 opened this week. Awesome heist flick and it’s all women power all the time. Fun and exactly what I wanted in a summer pic. Cate Blanchett is everything.
  2. 3 cheers for air conditioning! Got ours fixed this week after over two weeks without it. Can’t overstate how pleased I am to have it back.
  3. I’m obsessed with Battle Bots. It’s such geeky, aggressive, tech gore-filled fun. It’s a bucket list wish to see it in person one day. I’m thankful for my DVR, so I can binge-watch a bunch of battles at the weekend.
  4. The motor home is still a huge hit. All their friends have oohed and ahhhed over it. I’m enjoying every story about their plans and preparation for the upcoming road trip to the grandkids. This has turned out to be the funnest gift I’ve ever given because it’s been as much fun to watch my brother and sister-in-law discover the joys of it as they have had in finding them.
  5. I’m preparing for some oral surgery this summer. I’ve been really nervous about it. But the surgeon I’ve got is a great person. She took the time listen to my concerns, as well as to explain the treatment plan to help calm those fears. I’m glad I found someone who makes me feel confident about something as scary as this.

Short list of some positive little things in my life this week. I hope you’re finding lots of good things in your summer.

Little Things

Fast list-y post to keep the streak going. Here are a few little good things that have made me smile this week:

  1. It’s a short work week. It’s already Wednesday, y’all!
  2. My SIL’s peonies are in bloom. Cut and standing tall in a glass cylinder in my living room, their fragrance makes my house feel like a Spring garden.
  3. Light, cozy mystery stories with silly premises, but great prose, make a few stolen moments of quiet feel like a vacation.
  4. Friends, old and new, who share their joys and sorrows and join in yours – they are priceless treasures.
  5. Shade trees full of emerald green leaves standing tall over lawns of lush grass and beds of colorful blooms.

I hope your week is full of little delights that make it easier to shrug off the daily annoyances.

Epic Day!

Not only is this the first Saturday of Summer (unofficially, I guess) and it was suitably hot and sunny, but today was the culmination of a 6+ month long labor of love that ended in an incredibly awesome experience. 

This year marks my brother and sister-in-law’s 40th wedding anniversary. They are two of the most amazing people I know. Generous, kind and hard-working are words that only describe some of their best qualities. They’re not perfect, but they work hard at being good people and loving of their family and friends. 

Because they’re so dear to us all, our family (our older brother and his wife, my nephew and his wife and daughter, my niece and her son, and me)  surprised them with the gift of a motorhome. It’s been a dream of theirs for decades. We thought this a fitting gift for commemorating their forty years together and honoring their loving kindness to all of us. And it’s just in time for their summer road trip to see the grandkids.

The surprise was epic! At first they thought the RV with a bow on it parked next to our house was part of the massive graduation party going on next door. But when my brother asked if it was mine, and I said “Nope, it’s yours”, the stunned surprise on their faces was priceless! It was so fun to watch them explore it, exclaiming over all the fun little features and neat gadgets it contains. Though it is not brand new and will likely take effort to learn to operate it well, they love it!

I’m bursting with happiness that we were able to do something so delightful for people who have worked so hard and loved us all so well. 
Be happy, my friends! 

Quick + from a big ol’ –

As I mentioned in an earlier post, I tasked myself with finding at least one good thing whenever I found myself grumbling or focusing on the negatives in any day. Holding myself accountable to that with this quick post. 

Today was a very Monday-ish Monday with many things, big and small, filling up the negative column. One large, hairy, noisy and unpleasant negative was kicked off from a coworker’s I’ll-considered broadcast email that put my team squarely in the crosshairs of a potentially devastating executive team backlash. She has apologized and assured me that that was not in any way her intention. I believe she’s sincere, but her intent is not the actual outcome.  My team and I have to deal with the consequences and I spent way too much time today undoing those consequences. That sucks big time. 

But, there is at least one positive outcome: I exercised an amazing number of diplomacy muscles and have mostly reversed the damage. Also, I had a fairly direct chat with my coworker and shared the consequences with her. She now knows to come to me first before broadcasting something about my team that can be easily misunderstood. So, there’s a positive in the ashes of the negativity bomb. 

Positivity for the win…

Flat out 

I had hoped to write something substantive and post earlier in the week. It just didn’t happen. I’ve been working flat out and just haven’t been able to pull it together. But I’m not going to let my posting goal fall to a busy schedule. 

Here’s a list of good things from this week. Although they are not terribly original, they made me happy and kept my positivity going:

  1. Sunshine! I wore my sunglasses on my drive to work every day this week and three of my drives home. It’s finally, truly Spring and I’m grateful. 
  2. I’m enjoying my work. I’ve done some really difficult, executive-level lawyering this last couple of weeks. And in the middle of it, both my boss and outside counsel have been very complimentary of my work and the logic of my theories and deductions. It’s extremely gratifying when those you respect and admire show equal respect and admiration for you and your work. 
  3. Very glad to be able to celebrate the good fortunes of a couple of friends. One has recently been able to visit her new girlfriend and visit old friends and home places for the first time in ages. Another has a new puppy. It’s really nice to have good news for once, and pleasant to share the happiness with my friends. 
  4. My sister-in-law received some lovely flowers from her kids for Mother’s Day and has shared them with the family. Irises are some of the most lovely blooms of Spring. 
  5. I have been reading for fun again, for the first time in ages. Just silly, fluff novels. Cozy mysteries, mostly. I particularly enjoy the weird and wonderful Aunt Dimity series by Nancy Atherton. They demand very little mentally, yet are delightfully quirky and engaging. 

There are five good things for this week. I hope your week has been just as full of beauty and blessings. 

Never destroyed 

Had a tough day today. Work was hard. Lots of demands, little advancement in areas I’d hoped to be resolved soon, and disappointing outcome on a big presentation I’ve been busting my buns over for a long time. Add some personal disappointments and you have a recipe for a rough day. 

But I’m keeping my commitment to positivity, despite it all, with these three good things:

  1. It’s sunny, with song birds and crabapple blossom buds in the trees. There’s even a little warmth from the sunshine!
  2. I got a haircut after work. The place I get it cut washes after the cut (so it’s not itchy after) and gives a massage with the wash. They use a really good tea tree shampoo and pomade that smells really nice. I always feel better after a good haircut. 
  3. This quote helped me put the day in perspective: “Disappointment to the noble soul is is what cold water is to burning metal; it strengthens, tempers, intensifies, but never destroys it.” ~ Eliza Tabor 

Have a great evening, friends. I hope you are not disappointed, but if you are, I wish you well in your tempering and hope you find balm for the sting. 

Accountability Quickie

Earlier this week I challenged myself to find at least two positive/good/happy thoughts or things whenever I found myself grumbling or thinking negatively. Well, it’s April 18th and still freezing and snowing. Snowing! So, yes, I’m definitely grumbling. 

But I’m committed to positivity and follow-through, so here are three positive, mildly happy things to balance it out:

  1. I’m late to the party, but I’ve recently discovered the joys of almond butter. What a great snack! Quick, easy for on the go, good protein and gives me an energy boost, deliciously tasty, and guilt-free! 
  2. Professional respect from your counterparts in negotiations is so validating. It goes a long way to resolving disputes and costs nothing. I’m always glad to give respect where it’s due, and very glad to receive it in return. Had the pleasure of having a mediator in a dispute I’m managing compliment my professionalism and acknowledge my patience, giving me a lot of hope that we’re going to be able to resolve this soon. Satisfying. 
  3. It’s been a few weeks since I started my bullet journal and I’ve been successful at keeping it up. I’m still not sure that I’m using it to it’s full potential, but I’m doing it. That’s a win for now. 

Ok, there’s my attempt at re-framing from negative to positive. I’m still not liking the snow swirling against my office window, but I do feel better about consciously choosing positivity. 

I hope your day is full of good things to keep your spirits hopeful. 

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